Going Down Range

Thats what my husband was doing yesterday. He told me he would be able to call yesterday to tell me his roster number so his address is complete so that I can send him mail. But today I find out that they can’t always that first day. Nope. It can happen in the first 72 hours! So 48 more to go. I just wanna hear his voice so I know he got there okay.

Add a comment January 13, 2011

You know your a Military Wife when…

You know you’re in love with a military man when…..

1.)  You don’t mind a phone call waking you up at 4 a.m.

2.)  You tell people that he’s only been gone a month

3.)  The smallest contact from your man makes your whole week

4.)  You cry over an email or text that says nothing more than HI & I MISS U

5.)  Those recruitment commercials on TV make you cry because of how proud you are

6.)  You sleep in PT attire & cuddle up in poncho liner, because its the closest you’ll get to your military man

7.)  Your favorite “man” to see everyday is the MAILMAN

8.)  You hate Sundays because the post office is closed

9.)  A 30 second phone call after no calls from him for 3 months leaves you full of joy

10.) “NO NEWS IS GOOD NEWS” becomes your motto

11.) You feel yourself growing more & more in love with your man while he is so far away

12.) Planning letters/care packages and putting them in the mail is more exciting then going out for a night with the girls

13.) You roll your eyes when you hear someone say “I haven’t seen my man for a week” (If they only knew)

14.) You don’t mind tripping over combat boots left in the middle of the bedroom floor

15.) You can go from being happy, to sad, to lonely, to angry, to proud, and back to happy in a matter of less than an hour

16.) You sleep with the phone right next to you, just in case

17.) The sight of any other man in uniform makes you miss your man MORE than it makes you drool

18.) You feel lucky for each second granted to the two of you

19.) Every new watch you buy has a two time zone feature

20.) Phone kisses are just as good as the real ones..if not better

21.) You realize you can forgive your man for not calling for a few weeks due to the fact that he honestly did have to work

22.) You have seen the following movies a hundred times: Full Metal Jacket, Platoon, Heartbreak Ridge, The Right Stuff, Top Gun, Apocalypse Now, and Blackhawk Down

23.) You haven’t heard from him in a while and you find yourself reading the old letters you have received.

24.) You don’t bat an eyelash when he says “Uh, honey they changed when I’m supposed to return home,” yet again (for the 10 millionth time)

25.) You go to bed an hour early because you know you’ll get a call at 2am and be up for 45 minutes to talk to him and you’ve got work the next day.

 

Add a comment January 12, 2011

Things NOT to say to a Military Wife

Top 14 Things NOT to Say to A Military Wife

1. “Aren’t you afraid that he’ll be killed?”
(This one ranks in at number one on the “duh” list. Of course we’re afraid!  We’re terrified!!  The thought always lingers in the back of our minds — but thanks, brilliant, you just brought it back to the front. Maybe next you can go ask someone with cancer if they’re scared of dying.)

2. “I don’t know how you manage. I don’t think I could do it.”
(Although intended to be a compliment, its just a little annoying.  Here’s why: it’s not like all of us military wives have been dreaming since childhood of the day we’d get to be anxious single moms who carry cell phones with us to the bathroom and in the shower.  We’re not made of some mysterious matter that makes us more capable, we were simply asked to take on a challenging job.  So we rose to the challenge and found the strength to make sacrifices.)

3. “At least he’s not in Iraq.”

(This is the number one most annoying comment for those whose husbands are in Afghanistan. What do they think is happening in Afghanistan?  An international game of golf?)

4. “Do you think he’ll get to come home for Christmas/anniversary/birthday/birth of a child/wedding/family reunion, etc?”
(Don’t you watch the news?  No!  They don’t get to come home for any of these things.  Please don’t ask again.)

5. “What are you going to do to keep yourself busy while he’s gone?”
(Short answer: Try to keep my sanity.  Maybe there’s a military wife out there who gets bored when her husband leaves.  For the rest of us, those with and without children, we find ourselves having to be two people.  That keeps us plenty busy.  We do get lonely, but we don’t get bored.  And drinking massive amounts of wine always helps keep me busy.)

6. “How much longer does he have until he can get out?”
(This one is annoying to many of us whether our husbands are deployed or not.  Many of our husbands aren’t counting down the days until they “can” get out.  Many of them keep signing back up again and again because they actually lovewhat they do or they VOLUNTEER again and again to go back to Iraq because there is work that needs to be done…and who else is gunna do it?)

7. “This deployment shouldn’t be so bad, now that you’re used to it.”
(We do learn coping skills.  We figure out ways to make life go smoother while the guys are gone.  But it never gets “easy” and the bullets and bombs don’t magically skip over our guys just because they’ve been there before.  The worry never goes away.)

8. “My husband had to go to Europe for business once for three weeks. I totally know what you’re going through.”
(This one is similar to number two.  Do not equate your husband’s three week trip to London/Omaha/Tokyo/etc. with a 6-15 month (or more) deployment to a war zone.  Aside from the obvious time difference, nobody shot at your husband or tried to blow him up with an I.E.D. while he was away on business.  And your husband could call home pretty much any time he wanted to, with few exceptions.  And he also flew comfortably on a commercial plane.  We do not feel bonded to you in the slightest because of this comment and, if anything, we probably resent you a bit for it.  Comparing a 12 month combat deployment to a few weeks’ business trip is like comparing a Kia compact car with a Mercedes convertible.)

9. “Wow, you must miss him!”

(This one also gets another big “duh”.  Of course we miss our men.  There are some wives who do not, and they’re now divorced.)

10. “Where is he exactly? Where is that?”
(I don’t expect non-military folks to be able to find Anbar Province on a map, but they should know by now that it’s in Iraq.  Likewise, know that Kabul and Kandahar are in Afghanistan.  Know that Muqtada al Sadr is the insurgent leader of the Mahdi Army in Iraq and that Sadr City is his home area.  Know that Iran is a major threat to our country and that it is located between Afghanistan and Iraq.  Our country has been at war in Afghanistan for seven years and at war in Iraq for five years.  These basic facts are not secrets, they’re on the news every night and in the papers every day — and on maps everywhere.)

11. “Well, he signed up for it, so it’s his own fault whatever happens over there.
(Yes, ignorant, he did sign up.  Each and every day he protects your right to make stupid comments like that.  He didn’t sign up and ask to be hit by anything or killed or maimed.  He signed up to protect his country. Oh, and by the way, he asked me to tell you that “You’re welcome.”  He’s still fighting for your freedom.)

12. “Don’t you miss sex!?  I couldn’t do it!”
(hmmm, no I don’t miss sex.  I’m a robot.  Seriously…military spouses learn quickly that our relationships must be founded on something greater than sex.  We learn to appreciate the important things, like simply hearing their voices, seeing their faces, being able to have dinner together every night.  Our relationships actually tend to become better when we are reunited…like a honeymoon alll over again.   And the hard truth is, most relationships probably couldn’t withstand 12 months of sex deprivation.)

13. “Well in my opinion…”
(Stop right there.  I did NOT ask for your personal political opinions.  Hey, I love a heated political debate sometimes, but not in the grocery store, not in Jamba Juice, not at Nordstrom, not in a bar when I’m out with my girls trying to forget the war, and CERTAINLY NOT AT WORK.  We tell co-workers about deployments only so that when we have to spend lunch hours running our asses off doing errands and taking care of the house, dog, and kids, they have an understanding.  We do not tell co-workers and colleagues because we are giving an invitation to ramble about politics or because we so eagerly want to hear how much they hate the President, the war, etc…Especially while we’re trying to heat up our Lean Cuisine in the crappy office microwaves.)

Last, but not least…

14. “OH, that’s horrible…I’m so sorry!”
(He’s doing his job and he’s a badass.  Don’t be sorry.   Be appreciative and pleasetake a moment out of your comfortable American lives to realize that our Marines/Soldiers/Airmen/Coasties/Sailors fight the wars abroad so that those warsstay abroad.)

If you want to say anything, say THANK YOU.   After all, we are sexually deprived for your freedom.

 

Add a comment January 12, 2011

Snow Day for the Soldiers at Benning.

My husband is very lucky today. He was supposed to finishing inprocessing today and move on down range tomorrow but it might be put off because of the snow. Ugh that means he will graduate later =[

Add a comment January 10, 2011

The Lingo.

I get more and more confused with what the lingo is for the Army. Anyway below is a list:

AF — Army Airfield

AAFES — Army and Air Force Exchange Service

AAM — Army Achievement Medal; Air-to-Air Missile (see ATAM); Automated Acquisition Module

AAR — After-Action Review (formerly After-Action Report); Air-to-Air Receive; Air-to-Air Refueling; Aircraft Accident Report

ABN — Airborne

AC — Aircraft Commander; Active Component; Alternating Current; Aircraft; Aircraft Carrier; Air Conditioning; Air Controller; Aircrew; Armament Computer; Associate Contractor

ACU — Army Combat Uniform; Assault Craft Unit; Annunciator Control Unit; Automatic Calling Unit; Administrative Control Unit

AIT — Advanced Infantry Training; Advanced Individual Training (specialty training post-BCT); Aircraft Interface Tester; Automated Interactive Target; AUTODIN Interface Terminal; Automated Identification Technology

ALICE — All-purpose Lightweight Individual Carrying Equipment

AMF — Army Modular Force

AN — Army/Navy; see JETDS

ANCOC — Advanced Noncommissioned Officer Course. (Pronounced ay-knock)

AO — Accounts Office; Acquisition Objective; Action Officer; Aircraft Operator; Oiler (underway replenishment); Administration Officer; Air Officer; Area of Operations; Aviation Ordnance Person

AOC — Air and Space Operations Center; Air Operations Center; Army Operations Center; Air/Oil Cooler; Approach On Course; Auxiliary Output Chips; Aviation Ordnance Chief; Area of Concentration

AOD — Administrative Officer of the Day

AOO (AO) — Area of Operations; Aviation Ordnance Officer

AOR — Area of Responsibility; Allowance Overrides; Annual Operating Requirement; Area of Operations; Replenishment Oiler (underway replenishment)

APC — Armored Personnel Carrier; Acquisition Professional Community; Accelerated Provision Concepts; Account Processing Code; Activity Process Codes; Agency Program Coordinator; Air Project Coordinator; Aerial Port Commander; Assign Pre-programmed Conference (list); Air Program Coordinator; Approach Power Compensator; Approach Power Control; Approach Control; Assistant Project Coordinator; Aspirin [(Acetylsalicylic Acid, Phenacetin, and Caffeine) a.k.a. All Purpose Capsule]

APFT — Army Physical Fitness Test

ARCAM — Army Reserve Component Achievement Medal

ARCOM — Army Commendation Medal

ARFORGEN — Army Force Generation

ASAP — As Soon As Possible (pronounced AY-sap), but usually meaning, “Do it right now.”; Army Streamlined Acquisition Process; Army Substance Abuse Program

ASCC — Army Service Component Command

ASI — Additional Skill Identifier, such as F7 (Pathfinder), W5 (Jumpmaster) or 1C (Satellite Controller). Used at the end of an MOS code to designate skill-trained personnel. EXAMPLE: 11B4VW5= 11B (Infantryman) 4 (Skill level 4 or SFC/E-7) V (an SQI or Skill Qualification Identifier of V equaling airborne ranger) W5 (Jumpmaster); Airspeed Indicator; Authorized Shipping Instructions; Automated Shore Interface; Assign (and display) Switch Initialization

ASOC — Air Support Operations Center

AST — Area Support Team

ASW — Anti-Submarine Warfare; Average Surface Wind

ATAM — Air-To-Air Missile

AVF — All-Volunteer Force

AWOL — Absent Without Official Leave. Not at one’s place of duty, and not authorized to be absent, for more than 24 hours.

AWR — Air Worthiness Release

BAH — Basic Allowance for Housing (formerly BAQ)

BAQ — Basic Allowance for Quarters; Basic Aircraft Qualification

BCD — Bad Conduct Discharge; Binary-Coded Decimal; Battlefield Coordination Detachment

BDU — Battle-Dress Uniform; Bomb Dummy Units

BCT — Basic Combat Training (familiarly Basic Training or Basic), Brigade Combat Team (see also HBCT, IBCT, SBCT); Best Conventional Technology

BEQ — Bachelor Enlisted Quarters

BLUF — Bottom Line Up Front (i.e., get to the point)

BNCOC — Basic Noncommissioned Officer Course. (Pronounced bee-knock)

BN — Battalion

B/N — Bombardier/Navigator. The observer on a US Air Force fighter-bomber.

BOG — Beach Operations Group

BOQ — Bachelor Officers’ Quarters

BRM — Basic Rifle Marksmanship

BSB — Base Support Battalion

BWT — Battlefield Weather Team

BX — Base eXchange. Air Force name for a PX (see below.)

CAB — Combat Aviation Brigade; Cabin; Centralized Accounting & Billing (Navy); Contract Adjustment Board; Cost Analysis Brief; Combat Action Badge

CAC — Common Access Card; Community Activity Center

CAPE — Corrective Action through Physical Exercise

CAPEX – Capabilities Exercise: a dog and pony show with live ammunition, which is meant to exhibit the numerous abilities and assets that a single unit can call into action. Will range from team- and squad-level demonstrations to combat air support demonstrations (helicopters, A-10, etc). May also include rappelling/fast-roping from helicopters, airborne assaults and tanks.

CASEVAC — CASualty EVACuation

CAV — Cavalry (Armored Cavalry Regiment); Cavalry Fighting Vehicle

CBRND — Chemical-Biological-Radiological-Nuclear Defense (see NBC);

CBR — Charger, Battery Relay

CENTCOM — United States Central Command (AFB MacDill, FL)

CHOPS — Chief of Operations

CIB — Combat Infantryman Badge; Combined Information Bureau; Controlled Image Base

C-IED — Counter-Improvised Explosive Devise

CIF — Central Issue Facility

CMB — Combat Medical Badge

CO — Commanding Officer (also conscientious objector); Certifying Officer; Change Order; Contracting Officer

COA — Course of Action; Certificate Of Achievement

COB — Close Of Business. The end of the day or duty shift. MEANING: by the end of the duty day. USAGE: “Get that to me by COB today!!!”; Contingency Operating Base. Example: Contingency Operating Base (COB) Speicher, near Tikrit, Iraq

CONUS — CONtinental United States

CPX — Command Post Exercise

CQ — Charge of Quarters. A company-level position of responsibility for units who house troops in their areas. Given to a mid-level or junior NCO who is responsible for the company’s barracks and area during off-duty hours when the company commander and First Sergeant are not present. Lasts from COB (usually 1700 hours) to First Formation (usually 0600 hours) the next day during the work week. On weekends, the duty hours are adjusted accordingly.

CQB — Close Quarters Battle

CQM — Close Quarters Marksmanship

CSSAMO — Combat Service Support Automations Maintenance Office

CTA — Common Table of Allowances

CTC — Combat Training Center

CWO — Chief Warrant Officer; Communications Watch Officer

CWST — Combat Water Survival Test

CWT — Combat Weather Team

DA — Department of the Army; Data Adapter aerospace drift; Data Administrator; Direct Action; Directorate for Administration (DIA); Decision Agent; Developing Agency; Design Agent; Development Activity; Disbursing Advisory Notice; Drift Angle

DCM — Distinguished Conduct Medal; Data Channel Multiplexer; Deputy Chief of Mission; Data Communication Module

DCU — Data Control Unit; Document Control Unit; Desert Camouflage Uniform (not official)

DD — Destroyer (Navy ship); Defense Department (see “Department of Defense”)

DFAC — Dining Facilities Administration Center (i.e., mess hall or cafeteria)

DFAS — Defense Finance and Accounting System

DLA — Defense Logistics Agency

D-NIF — Duties – Not Including Flying

DoD (DD) — Department of Defense (Defense Department, see “DD”)

DPICM — Dual-Purpose Improved Conventional Munitions (i.e., an artillery round)

DRU — Direct Reporting Unit

DX — Direct Exchange (of damaged equipment)

EFMB — Expert Field Medical Badge

EIB — Expert Infantryman’s Badge

EOD — Explosive Ordnance Disposal

EFP — Explosively-Formed Projectile

EMT — Emergency Medical Technician; Emergency Medical Treatment; Elapsed Maintenance Time

EPW — Enemy Prisoner of War

ETS — Expiration of Term of Service (scheduled date of separation from active duty); Electronic Time Keeping System; Emergency Temporary Standard; Engineering (and) Technical Services (Request); Engineering Time Standards; Estimating Tracking System; Estimated Time of Separation

EUCOM — United States European Command (Stuttgart-Vaihingen, Germany)

EXSUM — Executive Summary

FARP — Forward Arming and Refueling Point/Forward-Arming Replenishment Package

FEBA — Forward Edge of Battle Area

FLOT — Forward Line of Own Troops

FOA — Field Operating Agency

FOB — Forward Operating Base; Forward Operations Base

FORSCOM — United States Army Forces Command (Ft. McPherson, GA)

FOUO — For Official Use Only

FTX — Field Training Exercise

GFOQ — General/Flag Officers’ Quarters

GMC — General Military Course

GCM — Good Conduct Medal; General Court-Martial; Guidance Section

HAHO — ‘High-Altitude High-Opening parachute technique (type of parachute jump, self-explanatory); also referred to as a Stand-off infiltration technique.

HALO — High-Altitude Low-Opening parachute technique (type of parachute jump, self-explanatory); High Altitude Learjet Observatory

HBCT — Heavy Brigade Combat Team

HE — High-Explosive; Handling Equipment; Housing Expense; Heavy Equipment

HEMTT — Heavy Extended-Mobility Tactical Truck

HMMWV — High-Mobility Multi-purpose Wheeled Vehicle

HQ — Headquarters

HVT — High-Value Target

IAW — In Accordance With

IBCT — Infantry Brigade Combat Team

IDP — Imminent Danger Pay

IED — Improvised Explosive Device

IG — Inspector General

IOBC — Infantry Officer Basic Course

IOTV — Improved Tactical Outer Vest (replacing the current Interceptor Body Armor Outer Tactical Vest)

IRR — Individual Ready Reserve

JETDS — Joint Electronics Type Designation System (e.g. AN/PRC-xx)

KIA — Killed in Action

LBV — Load-Bearing Vest. Used for carrying ammunition, water, and other tactical loads while in the field, or during an assault.

LMTV — Light Medium Tactical Vehicle. Used to transport troops or supplies.

LZ — Landing Zone

MEDCOM — Army MEDical COMmand

MEDEVAC — MEDical EVACuation to an aid station or field hospital, usually by air ambulance.

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Yeah I know its a lot but I hope it helps.

Add a comment January 9, 2011

a GREAT site to go to.

This isnt to stop anyone from coming to this site I promise you that. But if you want more answers then I can give you (mine are based upon day to day experiences) this is the site to go to.

http://www.armywivesforums.com/forums/index.php

 

They are fantastic. If you want to search for me or use me as a referral my username is ArmyWife1219.

Add a comment January 8, 2011

Hearing his voice.

From what I am hearing so far reception takes awhile. Apparently I am very lucky because my husband is going to have the chance to call every night between 8 and 9 until Monday! Tuesday he moves on to BCT. I couldnt be happier right now and let me tell you he says they are all excited to start training. While he was on the phone with me he sent me a picture of him in his ACUs and of how bald he is now haha. Anyway I can tell each of you that you should be very proud of those men. I am researching places to stay for his graduation! I know its early but I wanna make sure I get a place close by.

Add a comment January 7, 2011

And so it begins…

Where should I start? My husband is in the US Army. Sounds like it would be easy to most. Wrong. This is a blog about what I am dealing with from start to finish. My husband left for Basic Training earlier in the week. So this blog begins out of boredom. Maybe this will help other wives, girlfriends and fiancés that might face this after me. I’m not going to say that it is easy because its not. I’m missing my husband more as each day goes on. I will tell you all that the only thing keeping me together is the fact that I will be in his arms again and that this is only making our marriage stronger. Any questions I will answer in a blog once a week.

Add a comment January 7, 2011

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